We’ve all been there. Done. Fried. Pissed. Those of us that are parents of neuro challenged kids probably spend more time there than others. It’s not that we’re bad people, it’s hard to work with and communicate with someone that is on a TOTALLY different planet than you are. And we’re human.
We had a hard week here… what it’s only Tuesday? … well hell. We started a new chiropractic protocol for the kids last week. Which I’m really, really, optimistic and excited about. I can’t wait to share with you as soon as I have concrete amazing news (which I fully expect). But in the meanwhile, all changes are hard. Every time we start something new we take two giant steps backwards. And it’s hard… on everyone. But mostly my dear, sweet, girl.
So tonight I thought of all of the other Mommas out there, having a hard time. Putting down kids with sleep issues, ADD/ADHD, Autism, undiagnosed mystery illness, suspicions lurking in the back of their mind Mommas that are worn out and tired and sad. This is for you.
- When it gets hard – really, really, hard – walk away. Walk out of the room and give yourself a breath. Count to 5 and remember the person you are working with is likely as angry and frustrated and upset as you are. You probably won’t be able to talk it out because you are looking at the situation from two different worlds. Stop talking and walk away.
- Don’t compare your life, your parenting, or your child. Don’t compare to your friends, or their kids and whatever you do DO NOT compare it to what kind of parent or child you envisioned before you had kids. Ha! Don’t let yourself get sucked into all of the could have or would have or should have’s.
- When you re-enter the situation and all feels lost, take a breath and make a peace offering. Massage is magic. It’s amazing what physical touch does to disarm and change the emotion (common sense warning: use your knowledge of your own child, not every child likes to be touched…). If you are dealing with a child with special needs it is less important to discuss who won, who should have done what, etc. etc. Make peace. Massage oil and a foot rub or back rub can help them relax. It will also help you calm down and find peace. I highly recommend high quality essential oils for relaxation. Don’t use the cheap stuff. We love doTerra oils Balance, Solace, Frankincense, and Breathe for bedtime rituals.
- Find gratitude. Start small. Think of all of the magical and wonderful things that you love about your child, that make them unique, your relationship, the way that it is different than what you expected. Let it build.
- Pour wine. Lots of wine. And remember, you are not alone. You are amazing. You are powerful. You are unstoppable.
And for those of you without special needs children – I’m sure you can put the same rules to use for your Terrible Two’s or your significant other.. 😉
Much love to you Mommas.
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